
I know dreams have the potential to make for really boring stories. But I had a brief, yet profound and insightful dream last night. I was tempted to keep it to myself but I feel a bigger urge to share – not only the dream but the technique I use to interpret my dreams every morning, as a way to understand myself and the world around me a little better. I first started the practice of remembering my dreams, writing them down and interpreting them a little over a year ago when I began studying metaphysics. Metaphysics is defined as the abstract philosophical studies : a study of what is outside the objective experience. I'm just now talking about it because it's embarrassing to go from a staunch atheist to a truth-seeking spiritual hippie – I had some stuff to work through before I could talk about it here). If dreams fascinate you keep reading.
MY DREAM LAST NIGHT:
So last night I had a dream that I was standing on the edge of a very tall and rocky cliff with Shauna (aka Nubby Twiglet). She had a pile of rocks, gems and crystals ranging in size. She took one about the size of a loaf of bread and threw it over the edge of the cliff. I remember feeling nervous and even a little sad as she let it go. As it sank in the water it only became larger, clearer, and more illuminescent. It was growing and glowing at it made its descent to the ocean floor.
RULES FOR INTERPRETATION:
Interpreting dreams is part science, part art. I consistently follow a system of perimeters for interpretation using The Dreamer's Dictionary by Barbara Condron. But I think you can use any dream interpretation book as a guide and reference. Just to outline a few (of thousands) of the "rules" I follow when it comes to decoding my dreams:
• The dream is always a reflection of the day prior
• Every little detail matters. If you can remember it, it matters and can be interpreted.
• Everyone in your dream represents you. Women (or people of the same sex) represent an aspect of your conscious self (the you that exists in the physical world). Men (or people of the opposite sex) represent an aspect of your subconscious self.
• To know which aspects people in your dream represent list one or two characteristics about that person – but it has to be personal. It has to be what that person means to you, how they specifically make you feel – even if you know very little about them.
• If someone in your dream is unfamiliar they represent an unfamiliar aspect of self – something you may want to explore more in your waking life.
• The elements: air signifies movement, water represents conscious life experience, earth is the substance of your subconscious mind, fire is expansion.
• Animals represent habitual ways of thinking. Food is knowledge. Vehicles are your physical body.
• Conversations typically don't matter. You really want to interpret the symbols from your dream – not necessarily what is being said (unless you wake up and it feels significant... then go ahead and make note of it).
INTERPRETING YOUR DREAMS:
First recount your previous day. What did you do? What was your attitude? How did you feel? For me yesterday was intense. I hit the ground running finalizing a recommendation for a big deal client (all of my clients are a big deal but this one literally got a phone call from Oprah while I was Skyping with her... so you know... big deal.) Tara and I presented to said client and we almost made her cry she was so happy – this dream customer is already a personal hero so I was feeling pretty good about myself and my career. We went straight from that into finalizing another brand recommendation, presenting and making another amazing creative entrepreneur (a photographer in Boston) tear up because she was so happy. Again, feeling good. At the end of the day Jeremy came home from school with a really sweet Valentine's Day gift and I went to yoga. I was feeling wound up from my day but had the most amazing practice followed by the most amazing meditation where I could feel my pulse and this buzz throughout my entire body. I felt connected and content. I felt completely detached from my ego and the amazing work day that was now behind me. I had a great evening with Jeremy and fell asleep with the the desire to be more dedicated to my yoga and meditation practice.
So if I'm interpreting my dream from last night I first look at the elements:
• Shauna - represents an aspect of my conscious self. Shauna is a badass designer and blogger with loads of style. I admire her creativity and drive big time.
• Cliff – A steep ledge between land (substance of my subconscious mind) and water (my conscious life experience).
• Gemstone – the value of subconscious existence.
So, as I interpret the dream and relate it to my previous day I can see that Shauna reflects me feeling really good about myself creatively and in my work. But that I found real beauty and expansion, even if hesitant at first, when I explore the more subtle, subconscious aspects of myself during my conscious life experience (the water). The gemstone (value of subconscious existence) expanded and was glowing as it sank deeper into the water (my conscious life experience). This dream tells me that I'm finding satisfaction in my work but that I find light and expansion when I detach from the experience to go within.
STEVEN PRESSFIELD ON DREAMS
Have you guys read The War of Art by Steven Pressfield? You should. It's a life changer. So even as I picked up a practice of interpreting my dreams I still didn't put a whole lot of weight in them. Maybe because it was this radical new idea that only mystics and hippies were into. It just didn't seem very... practical. But then there I was reading The War of Art and Pressfield, a very smart man and brilliant author, begins talking about this dream he had:
I was part of the crew of an aircraft carrier. Only the ship was stuck on dry land. It was still launching its jets and doing its thing, but it was marooned half a mile from the ocean. The sailors all knew how screwed up the situation was; they felt it as a keen and constant distress. The only bright spot was there was a Marine gunnery sergeant on board nicknamed "Largo." In the dream it seemed like the coolest name anyone could possible have. Largo. I loved it. Largo was one of those hard-core senior nomcoms like the Burt Lancaster character, Warden, in From Here to Eternity. The one guy on the ship who knows exactly what's going on, the tough old sarge who makes all the decisions and actually runs the show.
But where was Largo? I was standing miserably by the rail when the captain came over and started talking to me. Even he was lost. It was his ship, but he didn't know how to get it off dry land. I was nervous, finding myself in conversation with the brass, and couldn't think of a thing to say. The skipper didn't seem to notice; he just turned to me and casually said, "What the hell are we gonna do Largo?"
I woke up electrified. I was Largo! I was the salty old Gunny. The power to take charge was in my hands; all I had to do was believe it.
Where did this dream come from? Plainly its intent was benevolent. What was its source? And what does it say about the workings of the universe that such things happen at all?
Again, we've al lhad dreams like that. Again, they're common as dirt. So is the sunrise. That doesn't make it any less a miracle.
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A dream like that is real support. It's a check you can cash when you sit down, alone, to do your work.
P.S. When your deeper Self delivers a dream like that, don't talk about it. Don't dilute its power. The dream is for you. It's between you and your Muse. Shut up and use it.
The only exception is, you may share it with another comrade-in-arms, if sharing it will help or encourage that comrade in his or her own endeavors.
(You guys are my comrade-in-arms). I feel like I could talk about dreams all day. But for now I'll just leave it at this. But if you guys want to continue the discussion let's chat.
Do you remember your dreams? Do you ever sit with them while you're awake to find deeper meaning? Have you ever had a really impactful dream?
Image source unknown (I know, terrible – call the blog police) – graphic overlay by me.
i am completely fascinated by this post and intrigued with the idea of wanting to try to interpret my dreams!!
ReplyDeleteThis is awesome! I remember most of my dreams but I'm bad about writing them down when I first wake up. I'd like to get better about it. I too have the merit badge of Atheist to Spiritual guru. It's difficult but an important journey =)
ReplyDeleteI love this! I want to write my dreams down more. I always remember them but never remember to write them down first thing. I have the Atheist to Spiritual hippie merit badge too! It's hard but so awesome. =)
ReplyDeleteReally interesting topic!
ReplyDeleteJust bringing my own perspective to this so you can take it or leave it. :) One of my friends is a missionary in North Africa, and she says a really fascinating aspect of the culture is a placement of deep significance on dreams and visions. She's had many conversations with Muslim friends she's made there who say God or Jesus spoke to them in a dream. They're open to that kind of spiritual interaction, and I think God is more than happy to engage in a way that is culturally significant for them.
All that to say if you find great insight and meaning to your dreams I think you should keep on paying attention!
I am so glad you posted this! One of the most valuable parts of my seeing a counselor has been her helping me understand some of what my dreams are saying. I am excited that you mentioned a book and some of the "rules" so I can get better at analyzing myself! This was really interesting- glad you posted.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I am hoping (from a tweet connecting you two a few days ago) that this big name client might be Brene Brown? If so, I am SO excited. I read a couple of her books after seeing them rec'd on your site and others and they really resonated with me. So exciting that you might be working with her! What a dynamite combination of awesome people!
Thank you!
Sharon @ Granola Meets Grits
I've been obsessed with dreams since I was a kid. Everyday from elementary through high school I would report my dreams to my friends (I've heard telling them helps you remember future dreams). Anyway, I've never really tried to interpret them. Your dream seems more clear for an interpretation because of it's imagery. What do you do about really, really off the wall stuff? Recently I had a dream about the first female NFL QB. After football she starred in cop movies. I can't even begin to think how that applies to my life. I'm dreaming stuff like that every night. WTF.
ReplyDeleteI love this topic.
I dream often and remember a lot (at least for the first hour of waking time). You've inspired me to pay closer attention.
ReplyDeletePS - SQUEE on the work stuff. You know how I feel about all that. :-)
I've always been obsessed with my dreams. I can vividly recall dreams tracing back to around age 5 or so (I'm 32 now). Some of them I remember fondly; others are still rather disturbing. Sadly, in the past maybe two years, it's gotten harder and harder to remember anything I dream at all. I find this very disappointing. All I have now are my dreams from the past. I think the most epic one was when I dreamed I was with my then-husband and my three children, and we were visiting a quaint coastal town, right on the water, and there was a big town square that looked out onto it, and at the epicenter, a very large, old building. We went about exploring, stopping in shops, walking up and down the neighborhood streets, when suddenly, as we made our way back to that square looking out over the water, a huge tidal wave came and lifted us all up into the air, toward the top of the tall, tall building, and with a very fierce force, I remember being slammed down toward the hard earth with the water following behind me. It felt so real, and I felt the deepest sadness, knowing that was the last moment I'd see my children, with that fear in their eyes, helpless. I find it to be a fascinating paradox of sorts to have the brain communicate with itself in such a fashion. I hope you keep sharing more on this topic. :)
ReplyDeleteI have always been a vivid dreamer. I haven't ever really examined them according to any rules or systems, although that might be something that interests me.
ReplyDeleteI enjoy you.
ReplyDeleteI enjoy you.
ReplyDeletewow...this is such an interesting post. i've always kinda been into dreams but beyond buying a book many years ago - haven't really tried to learn to interpret their meanings too much...it's something i would like to learn more about though. i never would have interpreted your dream the way you did - wow...you really dug in deep (very cool)
ReplyDeletei actually am a lucid dreamer. i have them a few times a month and they are always pretty scary to me - though, i've read, that other people try to teach themselves to have lucid dreams...
I love the topic of dreams. I have been having vivid dreams since I was a kid and I remember most of them in great detail. I don't always analyze them, but the ones that leave me with a certain feeling in the morning are the ones I analyze. I've been doing this for a long time and now I know that dreams involving boats, water or trains on land usually are indicator of where I am on my path. I've had some really intense and amazing dreams that have really helped me understand my life and myself better just by sitting with them. Thanks for sharing your dream and preferred method of analysis.
ReplyDeletejust came across your blog from the fresh exchange & i am so happy i did. i love all the posts i've seen & you've got awesome style!
ReplyDeleteWhen I was younger I tried using dream interpretation books and quickly learned that they were useless to me because the symbolism were from the author's perspective and not my own. (In fact if I took the meanings from the books it sometimes made me unnecessarily paranoid - ie, I used to dream about wasps, which one of my books said meant that someone I loved was lying to me or betraying me)
ReplyDeleteAs an adult, I usually score a complete fail at interpreting symbolic dreams... and last night's was a good example. It involved vampires, zombies, levitation, nazis, ballerinas, fairies, a parade, public nudity, dogs who wore clothes walking on their hind legs, adults who are actually children, an epic battle over an arm chair, and voodoo. Oh, and Doctor Who. Also I think there may have been three of myself. So sorting through all of that is a bit overwhelming. I tried and did not get very far.
Sometimes dreams need no interpretation at all - I was camping Saturday, and dreamt it was so very dark. Small wonder why, because I opened my eyes after that dream and it was so dark I couldn't tell I'd opened them. Makes me wonder if I need to darken my at-home sleeping space.
My most meaningful dreams are the blatant ones that require no interpretation at all - like the one where my beloved dead grandfather visited me and gave me a time-travel tour of his life. These are the ones that are really priceless. And most of the important, obvious-meaning dreams involve (for me) people who have passed away. One of them... was just a short dream about a hug. And at the time it was all I needed, and lasted me for weeks. No interpretation required.
Whatever my subconscious was trying to tell me with all those Nazis and ballerinas and other things last night... Fail, subconscious. But at least it was entertaining.
To answer your three questions, absolutely!
ReplyDeleteI'm soaking up all the "rules for interpretation". That everyone in the dream represents you REALLY resonates with me. I should buy that book!
Additionally, I've noticed I always have rad dreams post a really good yoga practice.
Sharon - It IS Brené Brown! We're so excited to be working with her.
ReplyDeleteEveryone else – Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and dreams on this post.
I meant to include that above all else everyone, individually, has the final say when it comes to interpreting your dreams. Not a book. Not another person. But you. I do think having a guide (so maybe a book or a friend) to bounce your dreams off of is a great way to help find greater insight or work through the meaning of it all.
XOXO!